Caregivers

Throughout this entire journey I have been so blessed to have a wife who is a multifaceted caregiver. She has a soft heart by disposition so has truly stepped up to the plate in helping me in any way she can, spiritually, physically, and emotionally. Since she is a nurse and knows the medical world, she is an advocate and watchdog that questions a diagnosis, dosage, or particular med that she thinks might not be in my best interest. As a wife she has given me the sweetest emotional support at home, welcoming me with a warm hug and a cheerful kiss when I come home, and trys to make me comfortable after my work day.

But she is human and has her limits. She needs replenishing, and re-energizing. And where does that come from? The spouse? But what if he just can't give out the emotional energy, stays focused on himself, or withdraws. Especially if the illness covers a protracted period of time.

If our roles were reversed, and she was the one with the illness, I know I couldn't do it. I would make a poor caregiver.

So I ask for prayers for our relationship. I need to be able to keep Annie's needs in mind and replenish her in her seasons of need and depletion. And, or, have friends who can give to her from outside our family circle. I have heard this is true for others in this situation. He/she carries the burden of physical and emotional care and tending. The caregiver is also impacted by seeing a loved one suffer. But those on the outside may focus prayers on the patient and not think about the spouse.

Thank you for keeping both Annie and I in your prayers. I wouldn't be able to function, work, and have a life without her.

In the body,

-Cal-